Hey Friends! <pronounced “Frans”>,
This morning I had an eye appointment with my long time family optometrist. My family and I have been going to this doctor for years and they have watched us all grow up from babies to babes. 😘
So after I squeezed myself in this appointment last minute, it was so refreshing to be greeted with a warm smile from familiar faces. Talk about longevity with a job! The receptionist and I started to update my information, you know the basics.
Has my address changed? “No.”
Has my insurance changed or stayed through same? “Yes blah blah blah.”
And here’s the punchline….
Are you still single? I answered with a very slow “yes”.😐
She keyed in the new information and I knew by the thickness in the air that she wasn’t done. ….
“Well that’s ok. I was just telling my daughter who is 27 that there’s still time”, the receptionist started. “I just meet this couple who came I the office and she was 35, he was 32, and they just met and feel in love.”
“Yeah, see there’s still time for me and your daughter to find The One,” I said trying to ease to the waiting area.
She continued, ” Oh yes, they had a beautiful wedding in Hawaii and they just make the cutest couple, he reminds me of what’s that guy name from the soap opera that went to Criminal Minds?”
…..🤔 is she thinking Shemar Moore? Nah
“Oh I’m not sure, I can’t think of his name but you say he looks like the fine guy who wears the leather jacket, carries the gun, and crushes on Baby girl, right?”….still attempting to walk away, wondering why my daughter doesn’t try to save me with an interruption per usual.
“Sometimes Amy, it’s all about waiting for the right guy. Who cares your 30ish, that doesn’t mean anything anymore. It just gives you time to make marrying the one even better”, she said with a perfect smile.
Boy if I didn’t feel bad enough about turning 30, she sure helped me rub it in. Growing up in the south it is drilled in every girls core of existence that you must do these things in this order:
1.Graduate High school
2. Go to college….possibly to nursing school if not, become a teacher.
3. Get married, hopefully as a senior (if not, you can wait until you graduate)
4. Be a housewife but maintain your independence
5. Have babies, lots of babies.
That is it! I’m so serious. When I skipped over my “prime” years of getting married. Being a 30 year old unmarried, single mom of one in Alabama is hard….SUPER HARD! The traditions here are very antiquated and days like this make you(me) wonder if I’ve missed something. I’m a hopeless romantic and I believe it love, it just hasn’t happened yet to change my last name. Sorry mum. …not sorry.
I can tell you this Best”fran”, it’s okay to wait until you’ve found the one that changes your life. It’s okay to be focused on making yourself a better person before you make a better relationship with someone else. It’s definitely okay to figure out how you are and what’s your purpose in this life.
Maybe when I got back for my next check up, I’ll have a story to tell her about my Hawaii or Shemar Moore. Who knows what’s in store for this single 30 year old mum of 1. Lol 😂
Side note…..Do you like my new specs? That was the main reason for going to the dr.